FEARBIES

FEARBIES

By: Darrelyn L. Tutt

"Fearbies" is my creative word for fears we do battle with.
Big fears, little fears, and strange in-between fears.
We all have fears and we all must deal with them, but some are a wee bit stranger than others. I shall put forth a curious little "fearbie" of my own:
 The Carwash.
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Did she just say carwash?
Yep ... I'm "afeared" of carwashes.
I don't mind being a passenger in one but I've never in my life entered a carwash by myself or been the driver in one.
When I see this in writing it seems ridiculously strange, and especially with consideration to the rest of my high voltage life, but none-the-less this fearbie remains mine.
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Here are three curious little fears attached to my fearbie:
1) My propensity for strange and "never heard of" outcomes is off-the-charts so this is a fearbie all by itself which must be addressed.
Strangely and interestingly, my outcomes are usually wondrous and unforgettable in the end but the element of surprise throws me ... and everyone around me, while events are in progress.
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2) A fearbie of getting stuck, stranded, or locked into a carwash is omni-present with me. There is no cell service in a carwash and no knowledge of how long someone has been in the carwash. If other customers are too long in line at a carwash, they simply resort to another line or take off in a huff. Nobody checks on the guy inside.
"I think Jim's been held up in the carwash for an unreasonable amount of time. Could someone check on him?"
Have you ever heard anyone voice such a concern?
Me neither ... and a reason I'm not a fan.
No one knows who's coming and going at the carwash or how long anyone's been inside.
It's awful.
Yikes and my blood pressure is going up.
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3) Mechanical ability isn't my strong suit and neither is narrow vehicle perception.
-I imagine myself over-driving or my wheel getting caught strangely in the beefy holders meant to secure the car.
-I imagine not being able to "unengage" myself.
-I imagine not knowing how to stop the massive cleaners once they're engaged or I imagine the water pumps having a faulty valve day and not shutting off on their own accord.
-I imagine suffering a stroke, heart-attack, or first panic attack while half-way through the carwash.
-I imagine purple bubbles and loud machinery going on all around me while I'm suffering a life-altering experience and none to help me.
What to do? What to do? What to do?
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Hmmm ...
The fears of others can sound so bubbly humorous and funny and yet we all have them and they must be got over.
The best way to deal with "fearbies" is to confront them openly.
Because getting over one fear can help us hurdle over others.
We lessen the impact of fearbies when we deal with them concretely and tangibly. We also empower others to deal with theirs!
So ... Jot down a couple "fearbies" with me and let's go to work. I'll tell you about my experience tomorrow and work to help you disenable yours.
Stay tuned.
*If I'm not here ... it'll mean I'm still in the carwash and you should check on me.
 Dealing with "Fearbies".
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