By: Darrelyn L. Tutt

Words wield a provoking power.
When we assign positive and affirmative words to difficult and negative scenarios we align ourselves with admirable traits of courage, confidence, and empowerment.
By selecting specific words we can alter our mindset, mood, and even our movements; we can also alter the lives of others.
Ugly scenarios and rancid mouths can be replaced with beautiful responses and confident expressions.
It's not easy but it's possible.
Out of the mouths of babes ... and mindful adults, purposeful and productive activities can flow from a purposeful and progressive mindset.
Rejection or Redirection Scenarios:
Doug and Cindy split up after 15 years of marriage.
Accusations flew back and forth and divorce proceedings turned horrifyingly ugly. Friends and family members took sides and Doug ended up being almost entirely ostrasized and cast out of old familiar social gatherings by the time it was over.
It was devastating, demoralizing, and degrading.
For awhile Doug fought back ... and then he realized he was wasting a lot of precious energy on a relationship that had dissolved and disintegrated into the remains of a disillusioning mess.
It was time for the bleeding to stop.
Doug made a few phone calls and linked himself to a counselor and group of men that fortified and energized him weekly. He also began to make use of resources around him. He applied himself to reading, some occasional writing, and a fresh new hobby of sky-diving. He's forged new relationships through new areas of interest and enjoying life more than ever.
He also began to jump-start his day with a profound and meaningful sentence that dramatically altered and began to govern his life:
Rejection is redirection and an invitation to change.
Doug chose to cauterize the verbal frenzy and heartache with positive and forcible words and activities.
He chose to apply positive words to his hurt and angry "ex" and remember the better times in the earlier years of their marriage. He refused to speak about private matters to Cindy and to others and found safety and wisdom in entrusting his emotional outbursts to an experienced counselor and in a safe environment.
Cindy continues to vent, rant, and rave.
Doug continues to heal, forgive, and be brave.
Rejection or Redirection.
Doug chose wisely.
Becky was looking forward to a well-deserved promotion in a large advertising company.
She'd worked hard and secured the company with extraordinary clientele over a five year period and been highly recommended for the chief editorial position sitting vacant. She was a shoe-in. On top of her game and filled with experience, expertise, and charisma, Becky was the employee every employer dreams of:
Committed. Charismatic. Confident.
Imagine Becky's dismay and disbelief when she learned that her boss's romantic interests with Samantha (6 months on the job) deposited itself directly into the lap of the promotional position she'd been waiting for and was given to Samantha. The sizeable pay-increase given as a "consolation prize" was not comparable to the coveted position she'd labored and worked for.
She fumed, fussed, and fidgeted internally.
She felt used, angry, and undermined.
A friend wisely sized up her situation and invited her to a motivational seminar which introduced Becky to some new thinking patterns.
One compelling and empowering thought struck her:
She could view her difficulty as a rejection or redirection.
Hmmm ...
It was up to her to decide.
Becky began to explore the wide range of vocational options that existed around her and realized that the sky was the limit in where she could potentially go. She began to visit companies that appealed to her and ended up with a range of excellent selections to pick from.
She said good-bye to her old boss, thanked him for the employment opportunity of five strong years, and surprised herself by settling on a company in Seattle and relocating. She's absolutely on fire and hot on the wire in her new job. She loves her new location, vocation, and interests and she's networked into new relationships, resources, and interests. She's enjoying a life she never knew existed.
Becky chose wisely in assigning herself some healthy new thinking patterns.
Her life has changed beautifully, dramatically, and for the better.
Think your situation over and readjust your mindset.
Rejected or Redirected ...
No one decides but you.